Welcome to MoveEarth.com. You must be at least eighteen years of age to use this site.

All our friends were once unknown strangers to us, so strangers aren't necessarily a danger..

However you should bear in mind a number of sensible precautions, whether using this site, another one, or meeting people you don't know very well.

The following is quite severe. Incidentally, it isn't by any means solely addressed to women.

This site isn't an agency, it is a public website hosting classified personal advertisements. It can be accessed and used by anyone using the internet, in the same way that a bar or club can be entered and used by any member of the public.

People aren't 'vetted' or 'excluded' from this site because in the future they might do you physical or psychological harm. In the same way, bars and clubs can't or don't exclude people in this way, and indeed your employer is unlikely to do so in your workplace.

You shouldn't assume on this site (or any other) that because of the nature or content of what is posted on it, that it feels 'safe' and that therefor you could 'rely' on it in the same way you could do so with a group of people that you already know. You very probably don't know anyone who is posting on this site, and they are therefore total strangers that might pass you in the street.

Your personal safety is your responsibility when you are using this (or any other) site, and you musn't 'let go' of this: the site carries personal classified adverisements only and you need to exercise the exact same caution as if you had encountered and conversed with a complete stranger in the street and had agreed to meet them elsewhere or agreed to converse with them by phone or the internet.

The following is general advice about using this and other internet sites.

Don't disclose personal information.

Don't give out your personal phone number or e-mail address on this site. Although you may have disclosed your actual e-mail address to this site, this is not published. Your actual e-mail address is never displayed on the site unless you disclose it in anything you yourself have written. Also don't disclose who your employer is, nor any detailed specifics as to where you live.

Meeting

Do not under any circumstances meet with a stranger unless you are in a public place and with people you know and trust, and you have contacted them via a number which you can ascertain for yourself is not a mobile phone number and is either the number of their home (by landline) or their work (by landline.) Give these numbers to a friend and let the person who you are meeting know that you have done this. On the first meeting, making sure it's obvious you've let someone else know where you are, and who you are with (by mobile phone) is a good move.

Moderate your drinking and don't drink anything you have lost sight of for any length of time. Don't on any account take any recreational drugs when you are with people that you don't know well.

Getting to know someone.

This about trusting your head, not your hormones.

Getting to know someone is an incremental process.not a sudden one.

If things happen suddenly, like an emotional outburst, sudden aggressive or irrational behaviour, pickiness, moodiness, or an immediate need to procure alcohol or drugs, or a demand to take things 'to the next step' then the important thing to take on here is that this not about you, and this is certainly not the first time this happened: it happened before you were invented.

It means you need to withdraw from this situation this time and seek advice from people you know better.

Protecting your head if things don't work.

Acknowledge to yourself before you go that your date may not find you attractive. If you find them attractive and suspect this is not reciprocated then realise there is absolutely nothing you can do about this. You can't rescue this situation by 'trying harder.'

It's not a job interview. You can't rescue it by showing that you're 'keen.' Quite the opposite.

You need a job to stay in London. You don't absolutely don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend.

If something doesn't work out, being miserable, irritable and dysfunctional is what humans do. Being at work and then suddenly at some pause being overwhelmed by sadness at 11 am is entirely normal.

It's called 'grief.'

In the English language, words that are short have been in use for many centuries, and usually have one syllable. So for instance the word 'lung' appears in the earliest English texts, and has the same meaning today in medecine.

The word 'grief' is a very old English word, which was used to describe an emotion, which was about 'loss.' And 'loss' is an old English monosyllabic word too.

My point is that these words have been around for centuries: and the short words of grief, loss or 'sad' are things that humans recognized as being important, so they invented words for them.